How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love Ed.D. & Steven Stosny PH.D

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

By Patricia Love Ed.D. & Steven Stosny PH.D

  • Release Date: 2007-01-16
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
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Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. Dr. Patricia Love’s and
Dr. Steven Stosny’s How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness:

Love is not about better communication.
It's about connection.

You'll never get a closer relationship
with your man by talking to him like you
talk to one of your girlfriends.

Male emotions are like women's sexuality:
you can't be too direct too quickly.

There are four ways to connect with a man:touch, activity, sex, routines.

Men want closer marriages just as much as women do,but not if they has to act like a woman.

Talking makes women move closer;
it makes men move away.

The secret of the silent male is this:
his wife supplies the meaning in his life.

The stunning truth about love is that talking doesn’t help.

Have you ever had this conversation with your spouse?

Wife: “Honey, we need to talk about us.”
Husband: “Do we have to?”

Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.

The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.


  • Amazing

    By fiddlereader
    I kept looking at self help books for confirmation of all the things my husband was doing wrong in our marriage, but reading this book helped me see how much my own insecurities and defensiveness were contributing to our problems. It helped me make changes in my attitude toward him, which in turn prompted him to be more loving. The title really says it all. If you want to improve the dynamic in your marriage without dictating your partner’s behavior and possibly hurting them with those requests (been there many times!), this is a wonderful read.
  • Book

    By Lomattem
    Very informative
  • Amazing

    By MarinaLynn
    It is really an amazing book. Read it and improve your relationship today!!
  • Great book

    By Aarondavis903
    I wish I had found this book, years ago, understanding my wife's fears and to actually see where she is coming from, and understanding why I feel the way I do and react the way I do. This book has changed the outlook of my life, I hope to share this with my wife, hopefully change our current situation. Again wish I had found this before I devastated our lives by leaving, thinking this was the only option left. Thanks Aaron D.
  • Good read

    By Keithnickname
    My wife and I read this together, apart. I am deployed. Excellent resource! I will read it again.